We Choose The LIFE We Live

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.” – Wayne Dyer

The most important key to a GREAT life, in my opinion, is the ability to choose the world we want to live in.  Do I want to live in a hostel world, or do I choose to live in a loving world?

I believe the choice is simple but not easy.  I choose to live in a loving world but I struggle in practice.  In practice living in a loving world means offering and receiving love.  I fear loving, I fear being loved, I fear loosing love.  I fear connection to what I believe can be lost or taken away.  Perhaps having the experience of living in a hostile world for most of my life, I’ve become use to it.  A hostile world is predictable.  One thing you can count on is loss, disappointment, and pain.  So in a hostile world you disconnect.  You never want or love anything or anyone so much that you never experience loss.  A loving world is unpredictable and therefore can be very scary.  Still I choose to live my life today in a loving world.

How do I make the choice to live in a loving world?  Daily I commit my life to it.  I struggle and I accept that while I choose a loving world, fear draws me toward the predictability of isolation, disconnection, and loneliness.  Today, I commit myself to love, connection, and fellowship even when my every instinct is to protect myself from the fear of loss.  I am open to love and accept and offer love knowing that it is not always retuned or appreciated and sometimes it is taken away.

The GREAT life is lived in a loving world.  This is not an option.  If I want to live the GREAT life then I must be committed to living in a loving world.  The GREAT life is not easy.  Living in a loving world it not easy.  I risk, I feel rejection, loss, disappointment and at the end of the day I am thankful!  I feel blessed and look forward to another day choosing the world I live in.




We Make A Choice To Be Happy

“The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.”

Is it strange that I feel guilty that I feel happy when everything isn’t going well in my life?  Life has it’s ups and downs, but I try to focus on all that is wonderful about my life.  So like any other normal person I’m disappointed when a relationship doesn’t work out, or financially insecure (really scared) when a job opportunity falls through.  I don’t let it get me down.  I simply choose to be happy.

I’m not superhuman.  I’m not always happy or optimistic.  In fact, I’m pretty pessimistic.  For a time in my life I was really negative.  I think it repelled people.  I soon had nobody to hang out with or talk to.

In working to transform my life, I’ve done my best to be committed to happiness.  I’ll SAY IT AGAIN TO BE CLEAR; I AM COMMITTED TO HAPPINESS!  In my life I’ve been committed to my addiction; I’ve been committed to my recovery; I’ve been committed to beliefs that made me miserable; I’ve been committed to unhealthy relationships.  For the first time in my life I am committed to happiness.  I wake up every day with a commitment to be happy.

I know I’ll experience, like everyone else, the highs and lows of being human.  That is to be expected.  But I know that it is my choice, my commitment, to be happy.  Living the GREAT LIFE helps to support the joy I feel daily.  I hope that you will find the same happiness by adopting the principles outlined under the GREAT LIFE page.