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It is my honor to share with you the secret I learned to transforming my life, one day at a time.  While the model may seem very simple, it is encompasses numerous theories by self-help gurus and change management theorists.  This model has had a tremendous impact on my life and continues to be the inspiration for my work.



“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie

Gratitude is how we begin every GREAT day.  Gratitude is not only all we are happy to have but should include our challenges (problems to some).  Gratitude is an inventory of all that we have and that surrounds us.  Gratitude is the awareness and clarity of the state of our mind, body, relationships, and environment so we can improve, care for it, or let it go when it doesn’t serve us.  In gratitude we look at the possibility of how we can improve an area of our life and we never take for grated all that is already perfect the way it is.



“Negativity can only feed on negativity.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Recognizing negativity allows us to be clear about our barriers to a GREAT LIFE so we can face our fear and remove it or move past it.  It’s important that we don’t ignore negativity, in hopes that it will go away, rather we face it. The most negative circumstances can be overcome.  Our ability to KNOW you can overcome any adversity with certainty is essential if we are to become what we dream of.  We remove all forms of negativity and replace it with healthy thoughts, beliefs, peoples, places, and things that support our GREAT LIFE.  When we remove nativity we realize that it is never too late to live a GREAT LIFE.



“Dreams get you into the future and add excitement to the present” – Robert Conklin

Excitement naturally follows when we get into GRATITUDE and we RECOGNIZE and replace negativity with a positive perspective.  What will you do if negativity were not present to stop you?  The thought creates excitement, enthusiasm, and energy!  In this perspective we create a vision for of life that is not hindered by fear!  Where will you be one year from now if you live the GREAT LIFE everyday?  This vision creates the excitement that keeps us moving with purpose, direction and focus.  Excitement for our LIFE, our vision, fuels the light that makes us shine!



“Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself” – George Bernard Shaw

Action is the magic that inspires wonder and imagination.  When we accomplish the smallest task toward our GREAT LIFE miracles appear.  Action bridges the gap between imagination and reality. Everything we do in life is creating us or destroying us.  Living in a vision of our lives begins with the mindful actions we take toward it.  Create goals that are a part of your vision for your life and take at least 3 actions toward those goals.  Keep it simple!  If your vision for your life is to have deep, meaningful, loving relationships, maybe you might start by making a phone call to someone you love and express gratitude for the relationship! Keep it simple and daily your actions will build into a life you dream of!



“The sun will not rise or set without my notice, and thanks.” – Winslow Homer

Thanks is the expression of gratitude!  Thanks, in my opinion, differs from gratitude in that gratitude is mindfulness of all we have in our lives, while thanks is immediate appreciation.   We spend and end our day in THANKS for all that we were able to do.  We think of all the people who helped make the day GREAT and think of all that make LIFE worthwhile.  We are mindful of all we were able to do and we never end a day in regret of all the things “I could have done or should have done.”  We are THANKFUL for all we have experienced and the lessons we have had and look forward to the morning with love for our GREAT LIFE.



“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.” – Jean Anouilh

Love, what greater pleasure is there in life?  To have a passion so deep for someone, somewhere, something… It gives our life meaning, purpose, and direction.  We begin and end our day with our passion in mind.  How GREAT is a life that is filled with love!  From the smallest pleasure to our greatest purpose love is LIFE!



“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

How wonderful it is to be inspired!  Even greater is the ability to inspire others by just being ourselves.  We should go about our day asking what can we do to motivate and uplift those around us with our actions, words, or presence?  Then do it! Go about the day and seize opportunities to inspire those around you.  With as little as a smile you can change someone’s day.  You may even change their life, or maybe your own!



“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes

There is a saying; resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Learn to let go of old wounds.  Forgive and see yourself set free from the burden of a story that keeps you from living.  Let go, forgive and be thankful for the pain.  It has made you stronger.



“The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that  matters.” – Audrey Hepburn

Life is meant to be enjoyed!  Enjoyment is happiness, challenge, accomplishment, connection, peace, serenity, silence… mindfulness or the moments that make life worth living.  Enjoyment is why we are here.  To have experiences of joy and to share them with others!  If you’re not enjoying life, find something, anything that gives you joy and take a moment to allow yourself time to savor it as often as possible.


Be GREAT: Steps to Creating Yourself

The key to a GREAT LIFE is to have a GREAT day.  The following exercise is one I’d practice on a daily basis.  Often I would write the exercise out on a sheet of paper and not long after I would simply go through the model during meditation.  Practice this exercise for a week and you will be amazed at how GREAT you start to feel.

Purpose of LIFE

I believe in starting the day with being mindful of my LIFE’s purpose.  Purpose doesn’t necessarily direct us in WHAT to do.  Purpose directs HOW we do it.  The purpose of life is to LOVE, INSPIRE, FORGIVE, and ENJOY.  I’ve shared what I believe is the purpose of life, now follow the exercise below and find YOUR purpose.